Mother’s Day

Written by Jodi Pace

I was stretched so thin, drowning in mom guilt with my head bobbing only slightly above water. My husband was deployed, I was working full time, going to school, two toddlers at home, and pregnant with the third. A fellow military spouse could see my desperation and told me, “I know you can do everything on your own, but you don’t have to.” That is the greatest advice I’ve ever received as a mom. Mom guilt is so real – the anxiety of perfection and constant worry.  As moms, we tend to try and do everything all on our own and when we don’t get it right, we hold the pressure to be a perfect mom.  God never intended for us to carry all our burdens. He encourages us to be freed to give him all our worries and doubt.

God’s love is not circumstantial; it is unconditional. Jesus says “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11 28-30). Jesus doesn’t say come to me, only the moms who remember every school Spirit day and provide 5-7 vegetable servings a day. He reveals “for all have sinned and fallen short, and are justified freely by His grace” (Romans 3:23-24). He finds the women at the well, the beggars blind and the tax collectors weary. He takes us at our weakness and builds a bridge for us to walk across and find grace.

When my daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy at age 6, I was so angry. I didn’t have anyone to blame, so I blamed myself and God. It took me months to find peace with such an unpredictable diagnosis and in such a difficult time. I had to get to my lowest point to find God’s unending grace and relearn that “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain any more, for the former things have passed away” (Revelation 21:4). With God’s grace, my daughter has been free of seizures for 9 months, and while her diagnosis is always at the forefront of my mind, I am set free that God will take away her hurt, and mine.

This stage of my life revolves around my children, and to be honest I hope it always does, but maybe with a little more sleep. I would not be the mom I am today without the help of my husband; I thank God every day for a supportive spouse and church family where my kids can grow in Christ.

Happy Mother’s Day! Mom’s group meets every Saturday at 9:30 am at Wesley Chapel.